78. Weekly Pep Talk June 10th

WEBVTT 00:00:11.000 --> 00:00:22.000 how good started, how's everyone doing happy brady put a Friday right 00:00:22.000 --> 00:00:27.000 See 00:00:27.000 --> 00:00:42.000 Let's see 00:00:42.000 --> 00:00:55.000 Okay, I think I am on gold here? please? Okay, I am live I'm going. 00:00:55.000 --> 00:01:00.000 How do you everyone happy? Friday? How how do we come? 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:06.000 I have a little one with a fever. say so. We are keeping it kind of low today. 00:01:06.000 --> 00:01:17.000 So. Hi, I am, Katie. if you are new to the society welcome. And you see quite a bit of me around in the group, I help a lot with commenting. 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:24.000 I used to actually host our accountability call, and I now get to do these like pep talks. 00:01:24.000 --> 00:01:29.000 So this is really fun. a little bit about me, so I am a mom of 2. 00:01:29.000 --> 00:01:38.000 My daughters are 4 and 2, and then I actually became became intuitive Eating counselor certified this year. So that was really exciting. 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:47.000 That was fun. and yeah, it's. been really a fun journey i've been in the Society for 2 and a half years, now almost 3 years, actually and working with Pauline. 00:01:47.000 --> 00:01:52.000 So this has been life changing absolutely and a lot of fun. 00:01:52.000 --> 00:02:01.000 So, as you guys know, this month in june we're talking about all things, body image. we just finished up our body image mini challenge, which was such a hit. 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:09.000 I, you guys, your comments were so amazing. I found a lot of people new people to follow on social media. 00:02:09.000 --> 00:02:11.000 Some people I was like. Oh, I follow them on Tiktok. 00:02:11.000 --> 00:02:18.000 I should bomb on Instagram. Yeah, i'm gonna make a list today of all the people that everyone suggested. 00:02:18.000 --> 00:02:21.000 So we have some more ideas. But here, yeah, that was amazing. 00:02:21.000 --> 00:02:26.000 So last week I talked to all things about body image and going on vacation today. 00:02:26.000 --> 00:02:36.000 We're gonna talk all things about like body image and where it comes from, and kind of how we go through those harder body image days. 00:02:36.000 --> 00:02:42.000 Okay, So body image, And where do we learn it? right? And can it be unlearned? 00:02:42.000 --> 00:02:46.000 Well first, yes, it can be unlearned. 100%. 00:02:46.000 --> 00:02:54.000 It does take time. it does take patience. It might take a lot of reflecting, but it can be unlearned. 00:02:54.000 --> 00:03:01.000 Where does it come from? Lots of different places, Right? It can come from your family, your culture, I know. for me. 00:03:01.000 --> 00:03:05.000 I right away Think of my mom and certain things that my mom would say, growing up. 00:03:05.000 --> 00:03:11.000 You can go even into like social media magazines, Tv movies, characters. 00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:24.000 I know that diet starts tomorrow. The podcast they did a couple episodes, I know at least one where they talked about all things. 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:30.000 Where their diet culture, beliefs came from, and like what characters? 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:35.000 That was a really interesting one that somewhere was like I didn't think of it that way! 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:43.000 But anyway, that's a really good podcast episode so there's lots of places that we could learn it, and it's also something that we cannot learn. 00:03:43.000 --> 00:03:48.000 Again. It just takes a little bit of time collecting patience, race. 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:54.000 All those things. So how can we unlearn this right? 00:03:54.000 --> 00:03:57.000 So this is my favorite way to look at it. this is also my favorite way. 00:03:57.000 --> 00:04:04.000 Just kind of reflect overall how i'm feeling so I like to kind of jack down the thoughts that i'm having. 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:08.000 So what are some repeated thoughts that i'm having about myself about my body? 00:04:08.000 --> 00:04:15.000 Maybe it's about other people's bodies yeah I like to look at them and kind of basically just label them as diet culture. 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:21.000 And reflect. Where do these thoughts come from, you know, Are these thoughts true? 00:04:21.000 --> 00:04:31.000 And I personally find that labeling them as dite culture, really helps me stop that thought. Realize that it's diet culture and kind of just seeing you know I said this either. 00:04:31.000 --> 00:04:41.000 Do like, Elise, Myers I don't receive that I don't receive that anymore. I don't do that around here anymore, and sometimes I see it out loud to myself. 00:04:41.000 --> 00:04:47.000 If I need to, or I you know, seen it in my head. and then we like to end it with the mattress. 00:04:47.000 --> 00:04:51.000 So if you're needing a new mantra I highly suggest the Mini Challenge Day. 00:04:51.000 --> 00:04:57.000 2 was full of mattress. So many amazing stories in those comments it was. 00:04:57.000 --> 00:05:01.000 That was a great that's a great source if you're being some mattress. 00:05:01.000 --> 00:05:06.000 So again. I like to just jot down some most common thoughts i'm having look to see if there's a pattern. 00:05:06.000 --> 00:05:15.000 Is there a pattern of a body part a time of day? some patterns of certain thoughts that i'm having all the time? 00:05:15.000 --> 00:05:19.000 Maybe it's certain people that are kind of triggering for me. 00:05:19.000 --> 00:05:22.000 Maybe it's after i'm looking at my phone on social media. 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:28.000 Just kind of look to see if there's a pattern and then you wanna label that you know that thought is diet culture. 00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:38.000 You guys, i'm gonna be honest so yesterday. I was looking through. I'm on a couple different peloton Facebook. groups, and one of them someone shared this amazing weightltery She looks great. 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:43.000 And I was like, Maybe I should really follow this calendar. 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:47.000 Maybe I could really do it, and then i'm like no it looks awful. 00:05:47.000 --> 00:05:52.000 It's like over an hour every day. I do not have the time for that. 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:59.000 I am trying to do like 20 to 30 min when I do work out, and I was like That's a dietulture thought. 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:06.000 That's a me thinking all in I can do it if I go all in, and i'm not doing that. 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:20.000 I'm not at that place, I don't want to do that. And I put down my phone and I did something else, so that I stopped taking in all that information. but I still have those thoughts sometimes and that's Okay, Hi, you know I 00:06:20.000 --> 00:06:27.000 think those thoughts are gonna come in often. or sometimes But it's how we react to them. and what we do with them right? 00:06:27.000 --> 00:06:34.000 And so right away I was like no that's not me I don't want to do that, and I just moved on right. 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:38.000 So that was just an example. I actually just literally did that last night in bed, scrolling it to my phone. 00:06:38.000 --> 00:06:48.000 So something else I wanted to mention is Colleen went into this a little bit yesterday, and her are sorry wednesday in her group coaching call, and that's a characteristic exercise. 00:06:48.000 --> 00:07:02.000 And this other idea of called and therapy so characteristic. exercise is something like thinking of all the other characteristics of yourself outside of your body. 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:07.000 Okay. So, making a list of other characteristics of yourself, hearing patient, empathetic. 00:07:07.000 --> 00:07:15.000 Funny. good mom, good dog, mom, good wife, good friend, good aunts, you know, whatever it may be. 00:07:15.000 --> 00:07:27.000 But coming up with a list of things that you think about yourself And if you get a little bit stuck, ask a family member or a good friend and ask them to give you some words that they would use to describe you Okay, you're gonna 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:33.000 keep that list handy. Maybe it's on your phone and your journal, wherever you're gonna keep it. 00:07:33.000 --> 00:07:39.000 And then I want you on your harder body image days you're gonna use this and therapy. 00:07:39.000 --> 00:07:43.000 Okay, So this is a practice that helps you remove your identity from your body. 00:07:43.000 --> 00:07:59.000 So on those days when you're feeling you know so down and you feel like you don't like anything that you see in the mirror, or you feel like you're uncapable of continuing on this journey you have to lose weight if you're 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:06.000 ever gonna love yourself. You have to lose weight if you're ever going to be quote unquote healthy again, right? 00:08:06.000 --> 00:08:13.000 You just feel your clothes don't fit right you just feel so uncomfortable and additive control. 00:08:13.000 --> 00:08:19.000 Okay, those are those harder body image days right and I have them still. 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:25.000 They're very hard, but I wanted you to try to practice this and therapy. 00:08:25.000 --> 00:08:40.000 Okay, So when you're having those harder body images I want you to say to yourself, I am having a challenging body image day that, and I want you to insert that characteristic that you just listed Okay, So like for example i'm having 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:44.000 a challenging body damage day and i'm a loving and curing mama. 00:08:44.000 --> 00:08:50.000 Okay, so practicing that will help you remove how you feel. 00:08:50.000 --> 00:08:56.000 Remove your identity from your body. Who you are is not how you look. 00:08:56.000 --> 00:09:03.000 Okay, you know. you probably heard the same like no one's ever at your funeral gonna be complementing your 6 pack a halves right? 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:08.000 They're going to be talking about how caring funny empathetic. 00:09:08.000 --> 00:09:15.000 Good cook, or I don't know different things that you've done right. 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:21.000 I want you to think of characteristics because that what you physically look like is not who you are. 00:09:21.000 --> 00:09:34.000 Your size, your weight, how your body looks does not define who you are as a person, I also just want to remind you to that. 00:09:34.000 --> 00:09:46.000 You're not alone, you guys, I I know that this can feel kind of lonely, especially because we're kind of going against the grain by not dieting, which I always think is kind of funny to think that you know i'm 00:09:46.000 --> 00:09:50.000 i'm in a group with 3 other moms and one just had a baby like 2 weeks ago. 00:09:50.000 --> 00:10:01.000 So she doesn't really count in this but the other 2 started a diet a couple months ago, and it could feel kind of weird to be the only one that's not i'm not trying to lose weight i'm not trying to change 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:11.000 my body shape and that could feel kind of weird to say or think about yourself because you're kind of going against the green. 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:20.000 But what you're doing should actually be kind of more seen as normal, because you're learning to become into your body. 00:10:20.000 --> 00:10:31.000 I also just want to remind you that even people with center bodies have harder body industries just as the same as people in larger bodies. 00:10:31.000 --> 00:10:36.000 We all have our insecurities. we often have feelings of being uncomfortable. 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:41.000 Comparing ourselves. We all are gonna have that okay and we're here for you in the society. 00:10:41.000 --> 00:10:50.000 We're all here for you and that's what the society is, for I highly suggest I finally took my own advice. 00:10:50.000 --> 00:10:56.000 I highly suggest watching the body image workshop. It is so good it focuses. 00:10:56.000 --> 00:11:04.000 The first half is focusing. on the now how you're feeling right now, when you're having a hard body image day, and then it focuses on the later. 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:08.000 So what can you do later? How can you work to improve your body? 00:11:08.000 --> 00:11:12.000 Image body acceptance on neutrality. It is so good. 00:11:12.000 --> 00:11:19.000 It's kind of funny I keep saying watch it you should watch it, and I was like I never even actually watched it. 00:11:19.000 --> 00:11:24.000 I should probably watch it home, and it is so good. Okay. 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:41.000 So if you are needing just a little bit more for body image, I highly suggest checking out the Mini challenge where there were 3 days where we had different prompts, and we did a shared your favorite, people to follow on social media We 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:44.000 did mantras, and then we did a letter to ourselves. 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:58.000 I also highly suggest the body image workshop that's in the society membership site and colleen coaching call that she just did on Wednesday. that was full of lots of body image. 00:11:58.000 --> 00:12:01.000 Talk so you're needing that little extra help for this weekend. 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:14.000 There are so many resources for you this weekend and yeah, I hope you guys have a great day, and i'll be around the rest of the day, taking it easy with my kitos, and I can check comments. 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:23.000 But open to have a great day, and i'll see you as a leader.