172. Group Coaching October 25th

Welcome to another SociEATy group coaching call! During these 45 minute calls as many of your submitted questions will be answered as possible. All questions will come from the group coaching call question submission form that is linked in the coaching + events tab of the The SociEATy membership site. If your question is not able to be answered or if you’d like more individualized support please put your name on the waitlist for 1:1 coaching! The SociEATy 1:1 Coaching ➡️ https://nofoodrules.co/1_1coaching Questions Covered on the Call 22:10 - is it possible to be able to exercise because I want to while learning to let go of those negative feelings at the same time? 27:50 - I am definitely incorporating gentle nutrition but think I am still struggling with have neutrality around certain foods. 32:43 - lately whenever my teenage stepson‘s girlfriend, or her friends are around, I get in this horrible mood. They are all extremely skinny, and wear the most tiniest clothes 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.000 Hello everyone! Alright, I'm gonna go ahead and get everything all situated here. We're gonna record. 00:00:02.000 --> 00:00:10.000 Good. And welcome everyone to our group coaching session today. So I'm going to go ahead, make sure everything there we go. 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:30.000 All right guys, welcome. I'm gonna go ahead right now and open up the chat if you are new let us know let us welcome you here this is your first group approaching session whether you are a brand new member whether you have been a member for a while and this is the first time you're making it here live. 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:50.000 We are incredibly happy to have you here. I hope you love spending the time together, I do have to say, the members who take the time to tune into these coaching calls be it live ideally or if you're listening to this on the replay, these are the members that I see Excel the most. 00:00:50.000 --> 00:01:00.000 So I just want to take a second to give everyone a huge congratulations who is on this call who is watching the replay of it. 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:12.000 It doesn't mean we have to be perfect with things, right? We're never going to be perfect, but having this built into your routine, you're going to see results so much faster with this. 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:18.000 So like I said, shout out to everyone here who's on this call or watching the replay of this live. 00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:21.000 We will go ahead and get started. So the way these calls run if you are new, we do a little bit of a reflection. 00:01:21.000 --> 00:01:31.000 We then go into, I typically have a topic. I'm gonna go ahead and let Kathy in. 00:01:31.000 --> 00:01:44.000 Have a topic that to discuss and then we get into the questions that you guys submitted throughout the week at any time you can always do 2 things if you ever have a question. 00:01:44.000 --> 00:01:46.000 You can post in the Facebook group and we go through those every day. Nicole's in there, she's fabulous. 00:01:46.000 --> 00:02:07.000 Responding to things, you also get a lot of member feedback, which is also a secret sauce to all of the members making such great success is because yes, Nicole and I think give you a registered dietitian perspective but when you can. 00:02:07.000 --> 00:02:21.000 It works both ways. When you can get advice from someone else who is in your shoes, it's so incredibly helpful as well as when you give advice to someone else, you are also learning what you are saying. 00:02:21.000 --> 00:02:32.000 And we know that saying something to someone else, giving someone else advice. Much easier than us giving ourselves advice, right? 00:02:32.000 --> 00:02:43.000 So it's a really great way to rewire your brain. So I would highly encourage being active in the Facebook group even if you feel like Do I need to do this? 00:02:43.000 --> 00:02:46.000 It is the easiest way to rewire your brain and to support each other. You guys are famous. 00:02:46.000 --> 00:02:57.000 I posted in there this week about something that I was working on and I'm gonna talk about that for our little topic today. 00:02:57.000 --> 00:03:00.000 But you guys are just absolutely, absolutely fabulous. Okay, before we get into that topic, I want to do our usual weekly reflection. 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:18.000 So go ahead, share in the chat. We're gonna work on our 2 W's. So what is one thing that went well from this week and what is something that maybe didn't go so well this week. 00:03:18.000 --> 00:03:20.000 So we want to look back non-judgmentally. We'll start with the thing that went well this week. 00:03:20.000 --> 00:03:30.000 Shared in the chat. This is anything. They can be food related. It might not be food related. 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:43.000 And just really taking the time to recognize any progress that you've made because like I always say into learning how to eat intuitively is like Looking at the top of a mountain, right? 00:03:43.000 --> 00:04:02.000 It's like wow that can feel like a long way to go, but when you can notice the steps forward that you are taking, you're gonna be more motivated to keep going and to get to that top of the mountain because when we think about it, getting there is all just small steps put together, right? 00:04:02.000 --> 00:04:11.000 So The thinking about your why benefits you in that way because you're like, okay. I am actually making progress. 00:04:11.000 --> 00:04:16.000 Maybe it's, you know, maybe I wasn't perfect. About listening to my phone list, but I feel like I've improved. 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:32.000 I feel like I've been better or maybe I have caught myself, you know, pre, I saw Facebook was about this, I caught myself tempted to binge and I I was able to pause right and navigate that and that is such a big way. 00:04:32.000 --> 00:04:45.000 So just make sure that you are celebrating everything no matter how small sometimes we absolutely have big wins and we want to celebrate those 2 but I think it's important to normalize that not every week is gonna have such a groundbreaking thing and that's absolutely okay. 00:04:45.000 --> 00:04:58.000 So if you have one share in the comments and then think about your working on, okay, and when we think about this, it's very important to make sure that we're doing it from a very neutral perspective. 00:04:58.000 --> 00:05:08.000 So we are not getting down on ourselves. The reason we do this to say, you know what, this didn't feel good. 00:05:08.000 --> 00:05:27.000 How can I change this? How can I work through this? That second part you guys. Is where the secret sauce is because most people do a one of 2 things they'll say Oh my gosh, that didn't feel good. 00:05:27.000 --> 00:05:32.000 I don't even want to think about that moving on or they will say Oh my gosh, like I can't believe I did that and they'll just ruminate on it. 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:50.000 We want to address it. We don't want to just leave it in the past, but we want to address it and figure out why did this happen and what can I do next time to change that, right? 00:05:50.000 --> 00:06:14.000 So this could be for anything. There was, I'll give you one example for me is earlier this week there was a time where I was having a lot of indigestion there was multiple times in the past week where I've been having indigestion and I was eating in a way that didn't feel good and for me specifically it's I love roasted cauliflower you guys but Doesn't always agree 00:06:14.000 --> 00:06:17.000 with my stomach. So just taking a note to not get down on myself and oh, I feel so bloated I feel so gross. 00:06:17.000 --> 00:06:27.000 Why is this happening right? What can I do to change that? And it's not I can't eat that but it's in what amount does that feel good? 00:06:27.000 --> 00:06:37.000 Right? And I also had this example when I made a really delicious dessert that I'm gonna work on. 00:06:37.000 --> 00:06:54.000 Adding to the society. I did at a couple of recipes this week. But I ate a little more that felt good and rather than saying oh my gosh like that I feel so guilty or anything I told myself was you know what I ate it out of the pan. 00:06:54.000 --> 00:07:10.000 I was standing up. I really wasn't being mindful. So, okay, noted for next time, the next time I have some, I'm gonna put some on a plate and sit down and allow myself to enjoy that because when I actually looked back on the experience I was like it really wasn't even that enjoyable, right? 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:15.000 I mean in the moment it was good, but that's about all I could tell you, right? 00:07:15.000 --> 00:07:27.000 So we'll get to some of that sparks one more thing I want to share with you guys about all the impending Halloween candy and then I'll get to sharing some of your wins because I know you guys share some in the chat and I always love hearing about these. 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:38.000 One thing about Halloween candy coming up, right? I was thinking about this in this goes into that dessert story that I just shared. 00:07:38.000 --> 00:07:50.000 Is that I want you to ask yourself, do you know what your favorite Halloween candy or you can do this for a literally any food that you feel like I just can't stop eating or I feel out of control around. 00:07:50.000 --> 00:07:59.000 Do you know what that food tastes like? And I'm as I'm thinking back to that dessert right now, in that moment I couldn't tell you what it tasted like. 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:09.000 Like I could, it was a pumpkin flavor dessert. It's a pumpkin no big Oreo cake like I said working on adding to the recipe. We recipe index. 00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:13.000 We do have a really good or in no big Oreo cake in there if you want to take a peek. 00:08:13.000 --> 00:08:19.000 I also added a couple different recipes for homemade butterfingers. The candy corn recipe is really good. 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:26.000 You guys give it a try. Just had one. And apple pancake rings. We've got a lot of fun stuff in there. 00:08:26.000 --> 00:08:34.000 We've been adding a lot more, so take a peek. But as I was thinking back to this dessert, I was like, I know it tasted like pumpkin. 00:08:34.000 --> 00:08:40.000 But that's all I could tell you. And so I was thinking about this the other day as I was eating Ares pumpkin. 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:46.000 I got some from the store. I was like, I'm so excited to eat these. I was like, I love these. 00:08:46.000 --> 00:08:53.000 And what I thought about it, I was like, I know it tastes like peanut butter and chocolate, but like That's all I could tell you. 00:08:53.000 --> 00:09:03.000 So I just think that this can be just a chance for as you are enjoying your Halloween candy without guilt if you you know it's something that you want to eat in that moment rather than just classifying something as it's good. 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:15.000 Or it's chocolate. Dick deeper and ask yourself like, what am I experiencing? Because that. 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:22.000 Is how you really eat mindfully. It's not about, oh, this is delicious. What about it is delicious, right? 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:31.000 And I think that so often when we think of Halloween candy or you know how coworker maybe has a candy jar at their desk. 00:09:31.000 --> 00:09:36.000 You're like I want candy that's good, right? Like that's good is in delicious. 00:09:36.000 --> 00:09:50.000 Do you actually know what that tastes like and sometimes we then say like I want more of that and again we have to kind of ask ourselves Well, what do I want about that sometimes is just that was enjoyable. 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:56.000 I want more enjoyment, right? Or is it that I actually want more of that food? It's a different, it's difference, right? 00:09:56.000 --> 00:10:11.000 So often when we feel like I just can't set eating chocolate, it's because this is an enjoyable experience and I want more enjoyable experiences but We can get enjoyable experiences in other ways. 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:17.000 So. Again, just ask yourself is. What does this thing actually taste like? Am I actually enjoying it? 00:10:17.000 --> 00:10:31.000 What am I? What about it? Am I enjoying? And being able to take that to consideration as well as how our bodies feel in the moment, how they might feel later, that is how you truly learn to eat those things mindfully and not to be restricted. 00:10:31.000 --> 00:10:41.000 Just that I pass that on. Let me get to your your wins here. Let me know in the chat you guys. 00:10:41.000 --> 00:10:49.000 What is your everyone feels very passionately about their favorite Halloween candy. I, I'm a candy corn lover. 00:10:49.000 --> 00:11:00.000 I love candy corn. But I don't know what I'd have to say. A 100 grand, 100 grand bars you guys those are my favorite candy bar of all time they are so good but they're not like a super duper common one. 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:20.000 That is one where I could tell you I know exactly what it tastes like there's the Carmel there's like the crunch factor of it there's a chocolate coating the texture so again just just something to keep note of as we are enjoying enjoying the candy that we want. 00:11:20.000 --> 00:11:29.000 Okay, Jennifer says, I went on a girls weekend and was able to eat minefully about what I was eating without being stressed, even amidst the busyness of the weekend, I was able to post in my fullness and still enjoy the things I enjoyed. 00:11:29.000 --> 00:11:42.000 Love that. Andrea says it was able to happily leave food on my plate when I observed that I was full at more than one meal this week. 00:11:42.000 --> 00:11:53.000 Amazing way to listen to your body. Erica says, I started eating without distractions this week, which has been difficult and boring, but I'm excited to see if this helps with noticing my full misuse. 00:11:53.000 --> 00:12:00.000 It's so interesting because honestly sometimes I feel that same way too about the fact that this sometimes this just feels boring. 00:12:00.000 --> 00:12:10.000 And I think when we notice that rather than kind of like, oh, this is boring, it can kind of be like, oh, so. 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:19.000 I might be using food for another purpose, right? So. That's something to think about with like. 00:12:19.000 --> 00:12:24.000 If it's boring to you, how can you infuse that joy in other areas of your life, right? 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:49.000 And it doesn't mean that, you know, food is always going to be boring, but it could be maybe I decide to add more flavors to bring enjoyment or maybe it's okay after I eat I'll sit down and watch you know part of a TV show or I'll read some of a book but I think that that's that thought of well this kind of feels boring rather than just like stopping there, getting curious about 00:12:49.000 --> 00:12:55.000 that and being like, huh, that's interesting, right? Okay, let me think about that a little bit more. 00:12:55.000 --> 00:13:01.000 That's not it's not bad. It's not good. It just is. What am I needing in this moment? 00:13:01.000 --> 00:13:08.000 What am I expecting food to do for me? I just think that's such a interesting thing to reflect on. 00:13:08.000 --> 00:13:16.000 Caroline says my win is that it's in my third week and treatment and I for Belimia I put complete pause on my life but I am proud of myself for trying to recover and changing gears. 00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:39.000 I love that. I'm so incredibly proud of you and happy for you and I'm happy that you have the team to support you and just making sure that you are open and communicative with them is going to be the best thing you are amazing. 00:13:39.000 --> 00:13:48.000 It is always scary to go on these journeys but that's a very very very honorable thing and respectful thing that you are doing. 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:59.000 Love it. Kathy says, I same with Brussels, Andrea says, working on, I did not allow myself to make potatoes for dinner because I had had eaten them earlier in the day. 00:13:59.000 --> 00:14:11.000 So this would be a great time to implement some of that exposure therapy. Maybe we intentionally plan some potatoes at lunch and then saying I can have them at dinner so often it's just as I idea that it's scary. 00:14:11.000 --> 00:14:17.000 But then when we do it, we can Absolutely, it's not as scary, right? So that can be a good thing to plan in. 00:14:17.000 --> 00:14:28.000 Oh, fast breaks are good candy bars. Twix are also delicious candy bars. Love those ones. 00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:42.000 I love anything with Carmel in it. Those are absolutely the best in my opinion. Okay, guys, so before we get into our questions for today, I had an interesting topic that I wanted to chat about today. 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:48.000 And that is the idea of self-care and knowing that we are worthy of taking care of ourselves. Let me paint the picture for you. 00:14:48.000 --> 00:15:02.000 So my husband has been traveling recently. If you saw my post in the Facebook group this will ring a bell for you. 00:15:02.000 --> 00:15:17.000 My husband has been traveling recently a lot this fall. Just like short weekend trips. He's gone this week for work and one thing I've noticed and tell me if you can relate is that my I just feel like I had this like alter ego. 00:15:17.000 --> 00:15:32.000 When I am by myself, I don't like do the dishes as much, I don't make the bed, I have clothes on my closet floor right now, like all things that I typically don't like kind of slide. 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:35.000 I have even opened our curtains in our living room now that I mention it. I haven't even done that today. 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:57.000 Just small things like that and I also haven't really like it gets to dinner time and I'm like I don't really feel like making dinner maybe I'll just make like, yoga bowl or I make like just something, even though personally I know that like those things are not really satisfying to me for dinner. 00:15:57.000 --> 00:16:12.000 There's nothing wrong with eating that for dinner or like a snack plate. If that's something that's satisfying to you, but for me, Like having a quote unquote traditional dinner with like a mane, some sides. 00:16:12.000 --> 00:16:24.000 To me that is super satisfying. And it got to the end of the day and it's like I just don't feel like making even though I know I'm gonna if I just kind of snack. 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:44.000 I'm probably not gonna feel satisfied, right? I'm gonna keep snacking because I didn't get what I was wanting and needing but if I may take the time to make myself a meal it's at even that sounds like more work it's actually going to be much more efficient because I'm gonna be able to be enjoy this and then feel satisfied and I don't have to think about food right and I can go 00:16:44.000 --> 00:16:52.000 do whatever I need to do. So I just thought it was, I was reflecting on this. I was like, why is this? 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:57.000 And so often I think we, I was kind of Shooting myself in the fact that my husband does kind of keep me accountable to do those things, right? 00:16:57.000 --> 00:17:12.000 There is someone else to make dinner for and I love making dinner. It's also part of like what relaxes me at night. 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:22.000 So I also know if I don't take the time to make dinner, it's just gonna be like one long evening and it is my time to kind of like, I love it just to kind of decompress. 00:17:22.000 --> 00:17:27.000 And it's just funny how other people can keep us accountable even though the things that we are needing or wanting to do are going to benefit us. 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:48.000 Right? I know I feel better when I take the time to make dinner. I know that if feels better walking through the house when I can see our living room window open and it's not just like a dark room, right? 00:17:48.000 --> 00:18:18.000 And I just wanted to give everyone a reminder of A, you are worth it. And this just really shows the importance of When we are making choices when we are establishing our behaviors or habits to think back to not like what do I think I should do, but or what can I and what can I not do but what is going to make me feel good right because the reality is like I did kind of think about it for 00:18:20.000 --> 00:18:23.000 a second. I was like, you know, I don't have to make the bed. I don't have to open the cards. 00:18:23.000 --> 00:18:44.000 I don't have to do any of this stuff. And when we think about it in that sense, we want to rebel and we want to do those things even if we know they won't feel good and it's one of the big things with Not dieting is people think, oh, well, now that I'm, you know, not dieting, I can eat all the twix, all the fast break, all the, you 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:55.000 know, pasta that I want. And you have permission to do that just like I have permission to be a sloth and not a shower, not do all of these things. 00:18:55.000 --> 00:18:57.000 And The question is, okay, yes, you have permission to do that, but do you want to do that? 00:18:57.000 --> 00:19:08.000 Is, would that, is that going to serve you? Is that what is going to make you feel your best? 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:15.000 And when we can tune into that, that's when we start to want to make the choices that are going to make us feel best, feel best. 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:21.000 And that's going to be where we find balance because I can tell you what. My husband not being home. 00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:27.000 He's usually the one that makes the bed. I don't have to make, I'm not gonna make the bed. But you know what? 00:19:27.000 --> 00:19:45.000 Taking the time to make a dinner that is gonna make me feel good. See how I kind of found that balance with like house tasks, letting the things slide where they, you know, don't really bother me, but finding the ones that really impact me the most in my day to make me feel good. 00:19:45.000 --> 00:20:06.000 It's the same thing with food you guys. It's being able to not say just because I can do this now I'm going to do this it's asking yourself What makes what makes an impact on me feeling good that there's going to be some things where it's like, you know what, I'm going to eat the You know, I'm gonna grab the doughnut because I want 00:20:06.000 --> 00:20:15.000 to and that's not going to make me feel bad. Go for it. But there's some instances where it's like, okay, you know what, I'm just gonna have a snacky dinner. 00:20:15.000 --> 00:20:16.000 I can do that, but is that what's gonna make me feel good if that feels fine for you? 00:20:16.000 --> 00:20:33.000 And satisfying, go for it. It's about understanding. I think really what makes the difference for you and making you feel good and that's gonna be different for every single person and when we can tune into that that is how we find the balance that is how we find the style of eating that makes us feel good. 00:20:33.000 --> 00:20:46.000 So tuning into not what you should or should it do what you can or what you can't do. 00:20:46.000 --> 00:20:53.000 What are the things that make me feel good when we can tune into that? That is where everything changes. 00:20:53.000 --> 00:21:06.000 So. Hope that was helpful you guys a little pep talk for everyone, but I really do think that especially if you are in the place where you're thinking I hear this a lot of, well, I just want to eat all of the, you know, candy, the cookies, everything. 00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:27.000 The question is, do you actually want to or is it being driven by the idea that I should want to do all of these, you know, now that I can, I am letting myself that's really still letting die culture dictate our choices because now we're just doing the opposite, right? 00:21:27.000 --> 00:21:30.000 We want the choices to come from you and what's going to make you feel good and that's going to change between different things. 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:42.000 That's going to change on a daily basis and that's okay, but tuning into that can be incredibly helpful. 00:21:42.000 --> 00:21:47.000 Whoo, okay guys, step down from my my soapbox here. I'm gonna go ahead and pull up our questions. 00:21:47.000 --> 00:21:54.000 We have 3 really great questions submitted today. Let me give me a hot second to find them. There we go. 00:21:54.000 --> 00:22:02.000 Okay, come over to the sign. Let me turn my Name tag. Okay, okay. I'm gonna read the full question. 00:22:02.000 --> 00:22:10.000 I have a little, pop up here on the screen. The question says, I am in stage 2, so it's working on body image and and movement. 00:22:10.000 --> 00:22:22.000 It says I'm working on letting go of the fitness tracker and taking an exercise vacation, but I'm struggling because exercise has become a habit and I did the same amount every day for so long. 00:22:22.000 --> 00:22:31.000 I also love exercising because it makes me feel so strong and happy, but how can I let go of these feelings that I need to earn or burn off what I eat? 00:22:31.000 --> 00:22:38.000 Is it possible to be able to exercise because I want to while learning to let go of these negative feelings at the same time. 00:22:38.000 --> 00:22:47.000 Very, very good question and I can absolutely relate to this. So in stage 2 we talk about taking a movement vacation if it's something where you feel like you have to earn or burn off your food. 00:22:47.000 --> 00:23:03.000 And I also work on some people go into this and they say I'm just going to not move my body at all and that's an option. 00:23:03.000 --> 00:23:10.000 If that feels very scary to you, what I would recommend is just taking baby steps and asking yourself, can I plan in one day, one extra day of resting, taking time off and scaling back. 00:23:10.000 --> 00:23:27.000 In that way, that way you are still getting the movement and getting the stress relief. It still helps you feel strong, but you're getting comfortable with rest. 00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:41.000 So let's say you plan in one more rest today, then you get comfortable with that then you plan in another because here's the thing I would ask yourself in this instance, what else can I do to feel happy and strong while I'm taking this movement vacation. 00:23:41.000 --> 00:23:59.000 Again, that can look like anything to you. Maybe it's it could also be scaling back from taking a, you know, hide density fitness class to okay today instead of that I'm gonna take a walk. 00:23:59.000 --> 00:24:23.000 I'm letting my body get used to resting that is typically very very important as well as a lot of the brain rewiring but one thing with movement vacations is that If we are still Moving a lot and doing a lot of high intensity exercise, it can interfere with your ability to refuel your body and to get strong hunger in fullness cues back. 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:31.000 So if we are over exercising, it can hinder the process. So we just want to make sure about that. 00:24:31.000 --> 00:24:33.000 It's kinda like we're just chasing our tail, right? It can make it much more difficult. 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:45.000 That would be my recommendation as well as taking off your fitness tracker. That was one of the first steps that I took. 00:24:45.000 --> 00:24:50.000 Again, some people can just say, okay, I'm not gonna wear this thing anymore. That's great. 00:24:50.000 --> 00:24:54.000 But for other people, it can feel scary. So just taking it off for a couple hours during the day can be helpful because then that feels a lot less scary. 00:24:54.000 --> 00:25:08.000 And then at the end of the day, we look at that number, it's like, that's not even accurate so like why am I you know caring that much about it I might as well not wear it at all. 00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:17.000 And also for some people They won't necessarily develop that obsession with a fitness worker. I know we have people in this community who love them. 00:25:17.000 --> 00:25:21.000 They can give them a reminder of like, hey, maybe we get up during the day or it can be motivation. 00:25:21.000 --> 00:25:31.000 But there are also I just think personalities who just I know I will not wear a fitness tracker. 00:25:31.000 --> 00:25:40.000 I have been wanting something to track like sleep and heart rate but everything comes with a calorie attached to it. 00:25:40.000 --> 00:25:46.000 I have thought about getting an aura ring because it's something you can turn off and there's no like screen. 00:25:46.000 --> 00:25:56.000 But I also just think like I'm just not, I don't even wanna risk getting into it with data like that because I do know I have a very addictive like that because I do know I have a very addictive analytic personality. 00:25:56.000 --> 00:26:02.000 I'm very competitive. But that's not to say that you can't have a healthy relationship with and a fitness tracker. 00:26:02.000 --> 00:26:23.000 I think it's just important to, know yourself and your own tendency. So hope that was helpful that would be my recommendation to kind of ease into it and then Again, thinking in terms of Just because I'm taking a break now doesn't mean that movement's not going to be there to make me feel strong and happy again. 00:26:23.000 --> 00:26:38.000 And there could also be the question of if you Take time away. Is there a fear that you won't be able to build that strength back up, right? 00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:48.000 And understanding that that's a influenced by society, right, that tells us, you know, you use it or you lose it, it's not the case, right? 00:26:48.000 --> 00:26:55.000 And honestly, sometimes I think what's fun is when you do take time off, whether it's a longer movement vacation or maybe you literally go on vacation and you're not moving much. 00:26:55.000 --> 00:27:09.000 Coming back to movement after that. In working to then build it because if for me that's like a lot of the fun of movement is working towards a goal, working towards lifting heavier things, working towards running faster. 00:27:09.000 --> 00:27:22.000 Sometimes it it almost like resets your goals and you have something to aim for again rather than just like hitting a plateau. 00:27:22.000 --> 00:27:38.000 So it can also be physically beneficial for our bodies to do that. So if you're thinking about I want to be strong, well sometimes taking time off letting our body rest when we come back we can be even stronger. 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:50.000 So just just something to think about there. Very, very good question. Very, very common one. Okay, our second question today says, I am, I'm gonna read the full thing. 00:27:50.000 --> 00:28:05.000 It says I have worked through all the society stages and currently competing, completing gent nutrition. Although I have been a member for over 12 months, I feel like I put still put fun foods on a pedestal. 00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:13.000 For example, say I want a certain ice cream. I will think about it for days and obsess over having it when I finally go on buy set ice cream. 00:28:13.000 --> 00:28:23.000 I'm not even sure that I actually wanted. I'm getting entitlement eating vides and thinking that I'm choosing certain foods because I'm no longer dieting and I can have them. 00:28:23.000 --> 00:28:30.000 I'm definitely incorporating done to nutrition but think I'm still struggling with the neutrality around certain foods. 00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:37.000 So, So, so common. And I think this kind of goes back honestly to what we chatted about. 00:28:37.000 --> 00:28:50.000 Or earlier with thinking about like. Oh, what do we think we should do? And again, being able to kind of identify those things and say, I don't even think I like this, right? 00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:54.000 But here's what I want you to do next. I want you to say You might not like the taste of it, but that food is serving a purpose in some way. 00:28:54.000 --> 00:29:10.000 There is no Good and bad habits, habits all serve a purpose. In some way. So what purpose is a survey? 00:29:10.000 --> 00:29:20.000 Is it serving you excitement? Is it that the other foods that you're eating, the more gentle nutrition focused ones, are those not satisfying or exciting to you? 00:29:20.000 --> 00:29:26.000 How can you add some of that in there? Maybe it's different textures, flavors, colors, what can you do to make those foods more exciting? 00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:31.000 Maybe it's not even about the food at all. You guys here Theo coming down the stairs. 00:29:31.000 --> 00:29:44.000 He's so loud. Hello, Mr. Theodore. So thinking about it in that way, it could be something about the food, but it could also be, do you just enjoy having fun experiences to look forward to? 00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:49.000 Maybe that's something because it sounds like it's the anticipation of it. It's the idea of it. 00:29:49.000 --> 00:30:03.000 In the future. In May sometimes It is enticing for us to, I don't even want to use the term like for us to like slack off. 00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:16.000 But for us to. Rebecca, rebelling is fun, right? So it could almost be like, what is another way that I could Rebell, right? 00:30:16.000 --> 00:30:30.000 And something I've just ran a thing, because it is maybe you decide to, okay, you know what, I'm gonna go to I buy a new color nail polish or I'm gonna go get myself a pedicure and I'm gonna do a little bit of a wild color. 00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:34.000 I'm gonna go bright. It's not even a wildcard because I have it upstairs and I'm probably gonna paint my nailsless color this week. 00:30:34.000 --> 00:30:46.000 A bright blue or something just kind of like fun and bright. Maybe it is, you know what? I'm gonna do something different with my hair. 00:30:46.000 --> 00:30:54.000 Maybe you get like a clip in like colorful hair extension. Fun fact, I did go through a phase in late high school when I had purple hair. 00:30:54.000 --> 00:31:00.000 It was just a streak, but sometimes they just want to feel a little rebellious, right? 00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:23.000 So, and there's nothing wrong with that. I think that sometimes it's like how else can I achieve this right because sometimes that can just give us a little bit like I'm even smiling as I'm thinking about this guys because sometimes just feels fun right and so thinking through that in the moment and maybe that's not what it's about for you but it could be about something else. 00:31:23.000 --> 00:31:36.000 Maybe it is. I'm just exhausted and I just feel like I need a break and I just feel like being able to sit down with a pint of ice cream just feels like comforting to me. 00:31:36.000 --> 00:31:47.000 How else can I get comfort? Maybe I decide to go get some new bubble bath and give myself, you know, a bowl bath and let myself have that sort of comfort. 00:31:47.000 --> 00:31:56.000 Really asking yourself what is this food what's the purpose of it because like I said there is a purpose and it's not bad. 00:31:56.000 --> 00:32:08.000 It just will direct us to something that we can do to fill that purpose as well. But in a way that is going to feel better to our bodies, right? 00:32:08.000 --> 00:32:12.000 Very good question. I really really love that topic you guys because I feel like it's a total game changer when you can start to view things in that way. 00:32:12.000 --> 00:32:27.000 Specifically like our habits as they're not good or bad. There's just a effective habits in, you know, things that we do and ones that are less effective. 00:32:27.000 --> 00:32:33.000 So just thinking through it in that way, I think really helps to remove some of the judgment of that. 00:32:33.000 --> 00:32:34.000 Okay, let me go ahead and pull up our last question here. I'm gonna go ahead and read it. 00:32:34.000 --> 00:32:43.000 It's a little bit of a long when it says I am at that which guys love long questions the more context you guys can give the better. 00:32:43.000 --> 00:32:54.000 It says I am at the beginning of stage 5 for reference. So quing rats, first of all, to reaching stage 5 in Orlando to Trition. 00:32:54.000 --> 00:32:59.000 I had been working extremely hard on every part of this journey and have made some great breakthroughs, especially on body image work as I have repeated the stage numerous times. 00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:09.000 I feel good in my skin for the most part and I don't compare myself often to others like I did before. 00:33:09.000 --> 00:33:10.000 And I realized that all bodies are good bodies large or small. Oh, can we just take a second to sell you? 00:33:10.000 --> 00:33:36.000 Oh, my Atlanta. And honestly, what I love about what you just said is that you're not overly positive and I don't say that is a bad thing that you know being super rara positive about your body is it's fabulous but this just feels so real and attainable. 00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:50.000 It feels like real talk, right? And ever I feel like the majority of people like That's When we think about it. 00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:57.000 We want to just think about our bodies less, right? I'm just something just so sick of thinking about my body after dieting. 00:33:57.000 --> 00:34:10.000 Wouldn't you just feel nice? Just to be like, this is my body and that's that and just not have it be a emotionally charged like Amazing, you have put in a ton of effort and I think that you should be so incredibly proud of yourself. 00:34:10.000 --> 00:34:18.000 Okay, now to get to the question part it says I'm not proud of this question, but it's in never feel bad asking questions at all guys. 00:34:18.000 --> 00:34:23.000 There's literally nothing you could say that could surprise me or that anyone would judge you about. Says the one thing that seems to keep holding me back and I don't get what my problem is. 00:34:23.000 --> 00:34:34.000 This doesn't seem to happen with any other category of people, but lately, whenever my teenage stepson's girlfriend or her friends are around, I get in this horrible mood. 00:34:34.000 --> 00:34:48.000 They are all extremely skinny and we're the most tiniest clothing that one can imagine and act in a self-objectifying way constantly and it honestly drives me crazy. 00:34:48.000 --> 00:34:53.000 Of course I don't say anything but I get super uncomfortable defensive irritable all around in a horrible mood. 00:34:53.000 --> 00:35:01.000 I really don't understand. It's not like I want to look like them and I know that we are not supposed to have the same bodies as we did at 16. 00:35:01.000 --> 00:35:05.000 So I'm left with these angry feelings and I have no clue why. Oh, this is such a good question. 00:35:05.000 --> 00:35:35.000 This is this feeling of anger can be very common towards other people and I definitely experienced it a lot. Sometimes with bodies, a lot of people will also experience it with food of kind of like getting Almost like angry at someone else with whether they like stop eating but you want to still eat you know I'm honoring my body, but it can just send you in a little bit of like an irritable mood. 00:35:35.000 --> 00:35:42.000 And one question that I have here is do you potentially Does this trigger a little bit of your past self? 00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:50.000 Like we know where we're at right now. We know, like you said, bodies change, it's fine. 00:35:50.000 --> 00:36:20.000 But does this spark some of the old way that you used to think? Does it potentially bring you back to that place of where you were potentially when you were there age or when you were trying to strive for that body, sometimes we can feel like so you could also equate this to food even though you know I know my body needs more energy if someone else stops eating that could almost like upset you because you're like. 00:36:21.000 --> 00:36:29.000 I, you kind of put yourself back in the moment of I used to limit what I eat. I used to not let myself do what I'm doing right now and sometimes it can feel like looking in a mirror when we see other people, right? 00:36:29.000 --> 00:36:45.000 So I and one of the big things for me, regardless of the person's body size that you're talking about here, you talk about their self objectifying behaviors. 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:58.000 And I think that If you could try to flip the script and say, I have so much compassion for these young girls like And also trying. 00:36:58.000 --> 00:37:06.000 Personally guys, I don't know how people grow up as teenagers in this day and age with social media like Oh my gosh, right? 00:37:06.000 --> 00:37:18.000 And so I just think that if you can. Flip the script a little bit. I'm not saying their behavior is good or anything like that, but kind of thinking like, I would hate to be 16 right now. 00:37:18.000 --> 00:37:39.000 I would hate to still be in a place where I am self-objectifying like that really sucks for those girls and me just living in my body and not having to try to fit any sort of mold and truly being happy. 00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:52.000 Fight that I can show them that it's hey like you don't need to do that and maybe I'm just viewing it as you literally just living your life in the way that feels good to you and is in alignment with you. 00:37:52.000 --> 00:38:02.000 Can we kind of help kind of combat that, right? So. Sometimes I think it even though we know where we're at now, it can put us back into that place. 00:38:02.000 --> 00:38:10.000 It's kind of like when you you do all of this, you know, growing up as an adult. 00:38:10.000 --> 00:38:17.000 But then the second we sometimes step back into our parents houses. We can revert back to our childish ways. 00:38:17.000 --> 00:38:22.000 I definitely have this experience. I mean, sometimes I'll be I'll say things or I'll act in a certain way. 00:38:22.000 --> 00:38:42.000 I'm like, What the heck, Cowen? I was a very angry person which I it's kind of baffling for me to kind of talk about but I am you know very happy and bubbly for the majority of the time today I've done a lot of work on that but the second I step into my parents all sometimes they revert back to that aggressive type of Colleen. 00:38:42.000 --> 00:38:57.000 I'm just like, where did that come from, right? And sometimes we just have these situations that trigger us, whether it's something that we act upon, whether it's thoughts that we have. 00:38:57.000 --> 00:39:08.000 But I think that being able to recognize that and then being able to potentially extend some self-compassion, being able to potentially extend some self-compassion towards them or to potentially extend some self-compassion towards them or come some compassion towards them. 00:39:08.000 --> 00:39:16.000 And just saying, you know what, what I can do is just be me. And I can show them that they don't need to fit a certain mold. 00:39:16.000 --> 00:39:21.000 I can, you know, maybe it's in, you know, small things if they, you know, say, oh, I shouldn't have that. 00:39:21.000 --> 00:39:24.000 It's like, well, you know, it's it's fine to have these foods. 00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:31.000 If you feel comfortable, there's no pressure in that. But I think that little bit of a mindset shift can be super helpful. 00:39:31.000 --> 00:39:35.000 So. Just my little nuggets of wisdom there. Very good questions you guys as always. I hope this is helpful for you. 00:39:35.000 --> 00:39:52.000 And you got something from it whether it's just a reminder sometimes sometimes even if None of the questions specifically pertain to us. 00:39:52.000 --> 00:40:03.000 A, you now have that knowledge if you go through that in the future. Sometimes it's like gathering information so you have it when you need it, but also sometime just being on these calls can help us. 00:40:03.000 --> 00:40:13.000 Connect with others and just kind of reinspire us and remotivate us on this journey. So I think you guys for being here today. 00:40:13.000 --> 00:40:17.000 You guys, we have so many amazing things that I'm working on behind the scenes for you guys over the next few months. 00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:27.000 Get excited. We have a lot of new, very, very exciting things coming, you guys, the holiday season. 00:40:27.000 --> 00:40:28.000 Beginning of 2024 is going to be absolutely amazing. I cannot wait to share everything with you guys. 00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:44.000 You'll be the first to know, so stay tuned for more information on fun things we have but Right now what you can do, I did add some more recipes to the recipe index. 00:40:44.000 --> 00:40:51.000 Like I said, I added the snickers or the butter fingers and the apple rings, we also have a couple, or 4 other, we've had 6 new recipes this month, I think. 00:40:51.000 --> 00:41:04.000 The meatball sub is really good. Lots of fun things to go check that out. But if you guys need anything, post in the Facebook group, submit your questions for next week. 00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:10.000 We are here to support you every step of the way and I just thank you so much for joining me. 00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:32.000 I'm glad you love the videos, Andrea. I'm just super, super happy that you are here because it's so good when you can learn how to live with no food roles in every single person here is learning how to do that and not even that you guys we are literally fighting like I said all the social media bananas messages that we hear every single day so I just want to say how proud I am at 00:41:32.000 --> 00:41:35.000 every single one of you for doing the work through quite literally changing the world. Okay. All right, go have a great day and I will talk to you guys later. 00:41:35.000 --> 00:41:42.000 See you