146. Group Coaching May 3rd - Part 1

Welcome to another SociEATy group coaching call! During these 45 minute calls as many of your submitted questions will be answered as possible. All questions will come from the group coaching call question submission form that is linked in the coaching + events tab of the The SociEATy membership site. If your question is not able to be answered or if you’d like more individualized support please put your name on the waitlist for 1:1 coaching! The SociEATy 1:1 Coaching ➡️ https://nofoodrules.co/1_1coaching Questions Covered in this call 07:01 - What’s the difference between dieting and lifestyle? 08:52 - I have done stage 1 and 2 twice, and I am now on stage 3. I have been really hungry lately. I have been eating more and I have gained more weight and I hate it. I dont eat til fulness and satisfaction, cause that will make me gain Even more weight. My question is: what If hounoring hunger and fulness leads to more weight gain? Should I still hounor them? Part 1 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:09.000 Hello, guys, okay, so this is going to be just me chatting the first portion of the group, coaching did not get recorded. 00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:17.000 So we're gonna go through it again, because there's some really great things that I touched on that I wanna make sure that you guys get. 00:00:17.000 --> 00:00:18.000 So I started off with our usual reflection of what is going well in your week, and what is not. 00:00:18.000 --> 00:00:28.000 It's so important to allow us to do this reflection. 00:00:28.000 --> 00:00:32.000 So again think back to the past week. What is one thing you've made some progress on. 00:00:32.000 --> 00:00:44.000 What is one thing that you want to work on for the next week, and, as always, we want to make sure that we are not doing too many things right we could think of a million things from the past week that we want to work on. 00:00:44.000 --> 00:00:45.000 But we wanna make sure that we are just picking the one thing that sticks out to us the most. 00:00:45.000 --> 00:00:55.000 So pick your T. W's for the week, your win and you're working on, and then go from there right. 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:56.000 Don't try to do all of the things. Just pick those 2 things. 00:00:56.000 --> 00:01:20.000 I would love if you posted in the Facebook group what your win and you're working on it because something that I talked about was the reason why the society is so effective in the community format is because when we share our experiences and we read and hear and give advice to other people it's a 2 way 00:01:20.000 --> 00:01:27.000 Street, so they benefit, and you benefit. And it really really strengthens your progress on the goals that you want to make. 00:01:27.000 --> 00:01:32.000 So I highly highly encourage you to engage with the Facebook group. 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:39.000 So before we get into the questions for today, there is a few topics that I wanted to chat about. 00:01:39.000 --> 00:01:40.000 So the first one is the idea of the fresh start effect. 00:01:40.000 --> 00:01:49.000 So this idea is kind of like you. When you think a New Year's right, it's like a fresh start when we think about. 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:54.000 I'm gonna start something on Monday. It's the beginning of May. 00:01:54.000 --> 00:01:55.000 It is currently may third, I want everyone to kind of just allow this to be, use that fresh start effect right? 00:01:55.000 --> 00:02:09.000 Allow us to feel like, okay, it's May. We're heading into spring this isn't gonna be my time to refocus on my intuitive eating goals right? 00:02:09.000 --> 00:02:18.000 It's absolutely okay to do that. There's a lot of science and research to show us that when we have a fresh start effect, we are more likely to make changes. 00:02:18.000 --> 00:02:23.000 So use that to your advantage is cliche, as it sounds. 00:02:23.000 --> 00:02:29.000 It is true. So then we can also create a fresh start. 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:36.000 So some things that we can do are as simple as I'm gonna clean. 00:02:36.000 --> 00:02:41.000 My pantry, or I'm going to declutter, and we just feel like we have a fresh start. 00:02:41.000 --> 00:02:48.000 We feel we've rejuvenated right? So, having that fresh start, we can kind of create those right. 00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:50.000 And sometimes that can be like, I said just cleaning up a room. 00:02:50.000 --> 00:02:57.000 You feel like, okay, I feel recentcentered. So having that kind of effect can be important. 00:02:57.000 --> 00:03:02.000 And then also our environment. This is kind of a double de-cluttering. 00:03:02.000 --> 00:03:11.000 If you will, is kind of a double whammy here, because when we think about our goals, we want to also think about our environment. 00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:16.000 And making sure that it is conducive for us to reach our goals. 00:03:16.000 --> 00:03:24.000 So. Is there anything with your environment that you that tied to what you're working on, that you can change? 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:32.000 So I, Allison in on the live call, said she wanted to join more water, so an example of that might be okay. 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:36.000 I'm gonna clear my office. I'm gonna you know, reorganize a little bit. 00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:41.000 Feel like I have a fresh start and then I'm gonna keep my water bottle on my desk, and it's insight right? 00:03:41.000 --> 00:03:48.000 This could be. Maybe you feel like you struggle with nighttime eating in the fact that I'm not even hungry. 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:50.000 I'm not even wanting it, but I just eat it kind of mindless eating. 00:03:50.000 --> 00:03:52.000 Maybe what you do is you create your environment to have a book sitting on your couch. 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:57.000 So that you have something to do, or maybe you have a glass of tea ready. 00:03:57.000 --> 00:04:21.000 If you're just looking for some comfort, you have that set out at the ready, and you can see it right, creating our environment, making the things that we want to do, the things that we want to work on as easy as possible is so so important so just kinda ask yourself, what is something that I could either. 00:04:21.000 --> 00:04:22.000 Declutter or how can I adjust my environment to be more conducive to my goals? 00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:29.000 Right, and I know a lot of times in diet culture. 00:04:29.000 --> 00:04:33.000 We hear of. Oh, you know, out of sight, out of mind. 00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:43.000 What we don't want to necessarily do that, but I think that if you are struggling with the cookies and they're on the counter, maybe we put them in the pantry. 00:04:43.000 --> 00:04:47.000 Not that you can't have them, but it's more of an intentional choice of. 00:04:47.000 --> 00:04:50.000 I want the cookies so I'm going to go get the cookies right. 00:04:50.000 --> 00:04:55.000 Thinking about our environment can be absolutely key with that. So just kind of one thing. 00:04:55.000 --> 00:05:02.000 And then that kind of led me into another topic of spring cleaning your pantry. 00:05:02.000 --> 00:05:13.000 And I'm going to challenge everyone to do this to essentially give yourself a fresh start with going through your pantry, your fridge, whatever you want to do, and clearing it out. 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:25.000 And as you do this, I mean we all have things that let's be real are expired or moldy, whatever it is, but also going through and asking yourself what of the foods in my fridge do I enjoy? 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:28.000 What if the foods in my fridge make me feel good? 00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:38.000 What foods in my fridge are serving a purpose to me right because the reality is, we might not always be able to eat the foods that we love, the foods that we enjoy. 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:44.000 Maybe it's the only food that you can afford. Maybe it's the only food that is accessible to you that's still serving a purpose. 00:05:44.000 --> 00:05:50.000 So I just seem to asking, Is this food serving a purpose for me in a meaningful way? 00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:51.000 Sometimes it's like I don't even like this food right? 00:05:51.000 --> 00:05:58.000 And with that you may decide to toss it. You may decide to compost it. 00:05:58.000 --> 00:05:59.000 You may decide to donate it, or what I would probably do. 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:06.000 Realistically is. Say, you know what I don't want this food to go bad if it's not horrible I'll find a way to make it enjoyable. 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:10.000 You put a dressing on anything you guys, and it tastes good. 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:18.000 But note to self. I don't need to buy this again, because it doesn't, doesn't bring me joy. 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:23.000 So just kind of that was one thing that I thought to tell. 00:06:23.000 --> 00:06:29.000 Everyone was spring clean, our pantry, get ourselves a little bit refocused. 00:06:29.000 --> 00:06:45.000 It's also interesting to see the difference between our preferences throughout time, and you might be like, I used to love this, but now I haven't even I forgot about it, or I don't even like it like now my preferences have changed or the only reason I liked that was they didn't let myself. 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:51.000 Have. It could be a nice, a nice little thing. I would love to hear you guys post about it in the Facebook group. 00:06:51.000 --> 00:06:54.000 So we're gonna go ahead and get started with our couple of questions. 00:06:54.000 --> 00:06:58.000 Here that the recording missed. I'm gonna go ahead and share my screen. 00:06:58.000 --> 00:07:01.000 We just have 2 quick questions. So this person is so interesting. 00:07:01.000 --> 00:07:02.000 It says, What's the difference between a diet and a lifestyle? 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:12.000 And all diets can be considered lifestyles. But not all lifestyles can be considered. Diets. 00:07:12.000 --> 00:07:14.000 So a diet is anything that sets a should or shouldn't, or you can, or you can't. 00:07:14.000 --> 00:07:23.000 So something might say, I'm a lifestyle, not a diet. 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:29.000 But at its core, if it's still telling you what you should and should not do, and does not give you total control. 00:07:29.000 --> 00:07:30.000 You total autonomy. It is still a diet right? 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:41.000 You have total permission to eat past fullness. Normally, what you have total permission to do, whatever you want, you get to decide what feels good to you. That's what intuitive eating is all about, and a lot of diets will say. 00:07:41.000 --> 00:07:50.000 I'm a non diet. Approach, but there's still these shoulds and shouldn't right. 00:07:50.000 --> 00:07:53.000 There's still this shame attached to all you want to try not to eat those. 00:07:53.000 --> 00:07:57.000 So if we tell me that there's still going to be oh, I'm gonna feel like I know. 00:07:57.000 --> 00:08:01.000 I shouldn't be doing this, and that's gonna have the same effect of just making us wanna even more. 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:13.000 So like. I said, not all diets are likes, not all, all diets are life sales, not all lifestyles are necessarily diets, and the reality is we all have lifestyles right? It's how you live. 00:08:13.000 --> 00:08:23.000 Your life so I do think that the word lifestyle has been kind of corrupted by di culture, and it kind of has lost a lot of meaning. 00:08:23.000 --> 00:08:28.000 But I truly think a lifestyle is a non diet. 00:08:28.000 --> 00:08:40.000 Lifestyle is doing, making your own choices, doing what makes you feel good, and there is no right or wrong with that, and the decision of that comes from you. 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:41.000 Not an external source, like a plan, or what someone says. 00:08:41.000 --> 00:08:52.000 A guideline. It truly comes from the knowledge that you've gathered and what you feel to be the best decision for you. 00:08:52.000 --> 00:09:00.000 Alright. This question says, honoring my hunger. It says I've done stage one and 2 twice, and I am now on to stage 3. 00:09:00.000 --> 00:09:02.000 I have been really hungry lately I have been eating more, and I've gained weight, and I hate it. 00:09:02.000 --> 00:09:11.000 I don't eat till fullness and satisfaction, because that will make me gain even more weight. 00:09:11.000 --> 00:09:16.000 My question is, what if honoring my hunger and fullness leads to more weight, gain? 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:25.000 Should I still honor them? Okay? So this question, I think that I would ask, what if you do gain weight? 00:09:25.000 --> 00:09:31.000 Right. And I think that digging into what do I associate that with what does that? 00:09:31.000 --> 00:09:40.000 What do I feel like? That means? And is that true? Because this question could be really interesting to hear the answer to? 00:09:40.000 --> 00:09:43.000 I feel like. If I gain weight, I am a failure. 00:09:43.000 --> 00:09:48.000 I feel like if I gain weight, I am going to be perceived as a slob right? 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:55.000 We have so many of these ingrained messages, of what weight gain means when in reality they're not true. 00:09:55.000 --> 00:10:01.000 They are taught to us. I use the example of Disney right? 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:04.000 All the villains, especially women, who are in larger bodies. 00:10:04.000 --> 00:10:08.000 So we think that if I become a large body I'm gonna be mean. 00:10:08.000 --> 00:10:12.000 I'm going to be the villain. No one's gonna like me. 00:10:12.000 --> 00:10:13.000 We haven't taught the way for so long, but the reality is, that's not the case. 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:21.000 So I would just kind of unpack some of those beliefs of what if I do right? 00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:22.000 And also thinking about the opposite. Okay, you're asking, what if I honor my hunger and fullness and it leads to more weight. 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:30.000 What if I don't honor my hunger and fullness? 00:10:30.000 --> 00:10:35.000 What does that mean? Am I gonna be starving? I'm gonna be obsessed about food. 00:10:35.000 --> 00:10:46.000 I'm going to have be fatigued. I'm gonna feel so tired because I don't feel like I have energy, my hunger and fullness cues aren't going to strengthen thinking through also the flip side of things. 00:10:46.000 --> 00:11:00.000 And then thinking, You know what I deserve to feel good I deserve to feel fueled thinking through almost like both sides of the coin, and then sometimes it's sometimes it's truly like a pros and cons kind of thing.